We have several Christmas Traditions but writing my girls a letter each year is one of my favorites.
When my girls, Paige and Kelsey, still lived at home, I wrote them a letter every Christmas. It was a review and reflection of their year and of course a reminder of their individual, unique and special qualities. Each letter consisted of the same topics but as they grew older the paragraphs varied accordingly. This is my favorite of all Christmas traditions. Below is the general outline :
- Age, school, teacher or GPA (high school)
- Dad, Mom and God
Here is a letter to Paige, my eldest daughter, from 2009.
December 25, 2009
Two thousand and nine was a very good year for you!
As I write this, you are sleeping because you worked the night shift at the hospital. Can you believe it? You are an RN, real nurse, (Registered Nurse). You passed the NCLEX in January just in time to give me my neupogen shots. You were a blessing to me during my year of chemo and breast cancer.
In February, you became engaged to Case, you know that little kid from Wendell Watson?… He grew up to be a fine young man and he ask you to marry him in the most romantic way… (That’s your story to tell.) Of course you said, “YES” and here you are 28 days from your wedding day. Your colors are navy, white and silver and you have amazing taste with elegance and classic tradition. I’ve been your wedding planner and it has been an honor and great privilege that you would bestow such trust in me. You will have to write how it went. That’s where your life with your family begins. How Blessed you are!
Brittany is still one of your friends and like it almost always happens you have added to your circle of friends. I met some of your work friends: Jill and Nicki. It’s just awesome to see you interact as a grown up with your colleagues. It truly blesses my soul because I know my job is done and you turned out to be a very responsible young woman.
You lost a close friend this year. She survived brain cancer for four years and on December 9th her poor little body was so tired of fighting that she went to heaven. I do believe she is in heaven and we will see her again someday. So during your wedding, I really feel that she will be there hovering over the ceremony with one of her angel friends telling them all about how you met, how awesome you are and how she helped us give Brittany’s shower.
You moved out! YEP! You heard me! You moved out the first week of December and you and Case are getting your house all set up for your new life. Since this is your last Christmas letter, I need to tell you a few things.
- It is my pleasure and honor to be your mom. You are an amazing, loving and caring young woman and you will be a great wife and mom (one day).
- In 28 days, Case will be the most important man in your life and Dad will be second. Honor Case by listening to him and dreaming his dreams. Honor Dad by honoring Case, your new husband. Remember, Case is the head and you are the neck(that turns the head). 🙂
- Keep GOD first! Stay in church and bring my grandchildren to church. I will take care of them during church so you can enjoy the service. 🙂 Read Deuteronomy 6:6-7 when you find out that you are pregnant. Parents can’t be perfect but they can abide by Deuteronomy 6:6-7. It worked with you!(“These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk to them when you sit at home and when you walk along a road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 6:6-7 (NIV)
- Always! Always! Always! Give more than you take. This applies to all areas: financial, emotional, relationships and TRAFFIC! 🙂
- Finally, remember your verse: Jeremiah 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “Plans for good and not evil, to give you a future and a hope.” God has been with you all the time. He was there during the good and sometimes we don’t recognize that as much or call on him as much. However, when times get tough, we call on him all the time and he is always there. Like that poem about foot prints…when it goes to one set and the person asks God, “Why did you leave me during the bad times?” God replies, “That’s when I carried you.” I carried you through the bad, difficult times” We don’t always feel like he is there but we can know that he is.
Mom’s original sayings…
“I love you THIS much!”
“I love you more!”
Remember, that’s how much I love you and always will.
I Can Still Remember
I can remember the exact moment when I gave Paige the letter. It was a very heartfelt and emotional moment. I cried writing the letter and she cried when she read the letter. This was one of the most emotional letters because it was her last letter as we knew life at the time. She was getting married and would have a home to care for. On Christmas eve, she would never sleep under my roof again. I am so blessed to have a few of the letters and I have so many memories.
Do you have any Christmas Traditions that you would like to share with us? I would love for you to share them in the comments section. I look forward to reading them.