Over the weekend, we celebrated 35 years of marriage. Happy Anniversary, Doug!
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This picture was taken on our 33rd anniversary. We were married on Thanksgiving weekend a few years ago. We thought that a Thanksgiving wedding would be convenient for all of the family who had to travel from out of town and our colors are burgundy and gray which was all the rage in the 80s. In the early years when our kids were little, we would also be able to leave after the Thanksgiving family meal and go for a weekend getaway as a couple. Those weekend getaways would usually set us up for a Black Friday sale at the local stores. Yes, we would be the ones who would be there at 6 AM, get all of our shopping done and then go back to our hotel and relax the rest of the weekend. Also, since the gifts were bought out of town, most of them were very unique.
When our girls were teenagers, we would get away as often as we could but most of the time sports event were scheduled, even though it was a holiday weekend. Plus the gifts for the kids seemed to change as the children grew older, so not everything was a total surprise at Christmas time. We welcomed their input regarding Christmas wishes and what they needed for Christmas.
Now, we have been empty-nesters for four years. That is when we started going to small cabin in the mountains for a weekend getaway. There is just something about the mountain air, quiet mornings, listening to the birds, sitting in a rocking chair on the porch and looking out over the mountains, that calms the soul.
When we are there, it feels like we have gone back in time and it is just the most relaxing time we have of the entire year. On this particular Thanksgiving, it snowed. For this Florida girl, that was so much fun. I was so thankful that I took my wool coat.
35 Years of Marriage Taught Me These 5 Truths About Romance
I’m not a marriage counselor but since I have been married for 35 years, I feel like I can speak to a few things that worked for us.
1. Read this every day: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails..
2. Don’t compare your marriage or love story to the love stories on TV.
God has so much for you in his plan that you cannot even imagine the possibilities. I’m so glad that we got married before Facebook, social media and reality TV. In our social media driven world, it is so hard for young couples who choose to compare their love story to their friends, a Facebook status or a TV show.
3. Value Individuality
After 35 years of marriage, I would say the most important thing is to value the individual that your partner is.
4. Find something you have in common and enjoy that together.
5. Enjoy time apart and with your friends outside of your marriage.
Both of my girls are married now and each one was required by our church to go to marriage counseling with their fiance. They all had to read this book:The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. It has been around a while but it has so much value. Its available at the link : The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.